If you’re not sure that you are ready to be a parent or just not convinced that you will be a good one, take a look at this list of questions. Asking these questions to yourself (and the other parent, if desired) may help you eliminate or decide on other options.
- Do I expect my child to make my life happy?
- Am I willing to spend at least the next 18 years of my life taking responsibility for and caring about my child’s health, happiness, and well-being?
- Do I like doing things with children and enjoy children’s activities?
- Do I know how to care for a child and provide for his or her needs?
- Do I know anything about child development? Am I willing to learn about those things?
- How do I act when I get upset or angry?
About My Goals and Priorities:
- What are my goals in life?
- How would a child fit into those goals?
- How would a child affect those goals?
- Am I willing to give up my goals for a time to take care of a child?
- Would I have time and energy to parent a child and work or go to school?
- How would having a child impact my social life?
About My Financial Resources:
- Can I afford to financially support a child?
- Do I know how much money it requires to provide for a child’s needs or to raise a child?
- Do I want to raise my child in the neighborhood or situation I am living in now? If not, where and how would I move, and how much would it cost per month?
About My Support System:
- Do I live in an environment where my decision to parent will be accepted? If not, would I be okay with that and how would I deal with it?
- Do I get along with my parents and family? Will I need their help?
- Do I get along well with the father’s parents and family? Will I have their support?
- Would they support my decision to parent?
About The Father:
- Does my partner want to have a child?
- Does my partner want to parent our child?
- Is our relationship a happy and strong one?
- Is my partner ready to give the time, energy, and money to raise our child?
- Do I know my partner’s feelings about discipline, family, child-raising, religion, work, and his future goals?
- Will a child fit into our hopes and plans?
- If my partner is unable/unwilling to parent, am I capable of raising a child on my own?
- Am I comfortable with my partner being a part of my child’s life?
Average Financial Expenses of Parenting
|Birth medical expenses||$24,000|
|Baby equipment||$1,000 -$1,500|
|Clothing/ season||$200 +|